Men are visual. Dennis Prager, conservative talk show host, likes to explain this to women. Since communication and understanding are essential in a good marriage, learning that men and women are different is one of the keys. I think it helps to understand the visual man.
Prager wants to come clean, no more secrets. He explains that men are reluctant to reveal this visual nature to their wives. One guy called in on his talk show and said, yes his wife thought he was a pig when he tried to explain the visual nature of man.
For me, I have been amused, bemused and educated by Dennis, but he has helped me understand what I thought I knew, but didn’t really get.
Dennis has helped uncover the male—that’s a visual image for you– But, really, thanks, for exposing men’s thoughts and desires, and showing us that men really are different — that the glimpse of a woman’s leg is all it takes for the male mind — and the restraint men learn to keep it all in-line.
Remember the Seinfeld episode–Jerry nudges George with his elbow, to take a quick peek of the girl that happens to be exposing a little bit of cleavage? George holds the peek too long, and Jerry, scolds him–“looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun, you don’t stare at it, it’s too risky, you get a sense of it and then you look away…a poke and a peek–that’s all.”
Men and women are very different. To a woman, a man sporting some short shorts is something to giggle about. For a man, a woman in shorts is very sexy, nothing to laugh about there.
My husband and I laugh about these differences — and he doesn’t get it why I don’t get it. I accept it, but don’t get it. But those are our differences. We are wired differently. I don’t know what it feels like to be a man. And for sure, men do not know what it feels like to be a woman — birthing a child or having hormones fluctuate.
I don’t think it helps for women to be offended when someone suggests that when women dress sexy — it’s sexy for the man, and he notices.
Of course, though I understand the differences, and kind of get it, I do expect fidelity in thought and deed. As he does with me. But this is what marriage is all about — Becoming best friends with your mate. Trying to see things from each others perspective. And of course, you can use that information to your advantage to up your relationship…and your bill at Victoria’s Secret.