Dressing Like Barbie

Some women just don’t get it.

In 2002,  I was listening to Dennis Prager on the radio talk about young women who dress provocatively — too much like Britney Spears (the hot babe at the time.) Some of the women, old enough to understand, just did not get it. They said it was fine for women of any age to dress however they wanted, and that men should have the decency to never look.

I thought about my own teenage years and decided to write Dennis an email about my experiences. I was surprised to get a response back from him, asking if he could read my email on the air. This was it:

Dear Dennis,

 I have a comment to share with you about last weeks topic on the Britney Spears epidemic.  As I listened to the callers who did not seem to understand,  I realized how many women could benefit by listening to you.  

I am 48, and  through the enlightenment of your comments and my husband’s sharing his inner most thoughts, I have finally realized what my dad was trying to tell me 30 some years ago.  He would look at the way I was dressed, shake his head and tell me “you don’t know what goes on in a boy’s mind.”  I assured him, he was mistaken, I understand boys, I was just dressing “cute”.  

 Now I get it, woa!  

 As a young woman, I had no idea that men are “hard wired,” that they get stimulated by the visual.  I thought they were like us women.  A naked guy is not a turn on, in fact, we may snicker a little — but get aroused, and actually feel that whole sex thing?  No.  

Ever see that movie “A Room With a View”?  There is a scene when the men go for a “bathe” at the pond, a hilarious scene, boys (men) running around naked and playing in the water–but you would have an entirely different reaction if it were women–it would not be funny at all.  

I appreciate a good looking guy, but I do not envision having sex with him. But, now I understand.  All those years I ran around in halter tops, and skimpy clothing.  And I thought I was a religious girl–much more now–and happy to say not running around in those clothes.  

Anyway, what I want to say, is that maybe these girls and women don’t understand men at all.  And to say that men should be able to control their thoughts while we parade around in front of them, simply is unfair, once you understand the male psyche.  Even now, I sometimes forget, and my husband reminds me–hey you’re like a hot fudge sundae (I guess he finds those irresistible)–and I look at him, and say really–that turned you on?   

Men and women are so different and most women don’t get it, and most men don’t let you see their hard-wiring.  Sometimes I think it must be exhausting to be a man–all that sexual stimuli.  

By the way, there are so many Britney Spears look a-likes at our public high school, that I am now home schooling my 10th grade son–along with two more sons–7th and 1st grade.  I am happy to say that our two older kids, a son and a daughter are dressing modestly in this sexually-charged society in which we live.  

Twenty years ago, when my daughter was still quite young, playing with Barbies, I would tell her, “Barbie can wear this, but you can’t–when you get married you can wear it in the bedroom!” I did struggle a bit with her when she became a teenager–had to hide a few short skirts that came through the wash. (I would tell her, hmmm, I don’t know what happened to that skirt–she did catch on, but she let me win.)  

On the other hand, maybe women do understand and just don’t care if all that stimuli is good for the boys and men in our society — that’s an even scarrier thought.

Deila

If you never saw the film, A Room with a View, this scene when the gentlemen go for a bath at the nearby pond, is a good laugh — and you will see that naked men are funny, which is not true for naked women.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ltOPfmlUcUA